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Prioritize, Don’t Balance – The Key to Achieve All You Want in Life

Finding balance with all the moving pieces in your life is almost impossible.

Life can get really hectic, and even in the calmest seasons, you likely have more than one thing vying for your attention.

There is work or business, family, health, and fun and entertainment.

Balancing your goals, emotions, relationships, work, business, finances, and other people’s feelings can be overwhelming.

That’s why I believe prioritizing is a better option.

Instead of trying to divide your time and effort evenly among everything, consider focusing on what is most important to you in any given season.

For example, you might prioritize your family, health, or work above all else in some seasons, while in others your relationships or growth may be at the top of your priority list.

By prioritizing, you can make sure you’re putting your energy and resources into the things that matter most.

This doesn’t mean neglecting certain things or people in your life for others, or that some things will be less important.

Prioritization is finding a healthy way to share your fixed amount of time and energy in a way that reflects your current goals and still gives time to the people you love and the things you enjoy.

So the next time you’re feeling overwhelmed, consider some of the prioritization tips in this post and see if they help you towards your goals.

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Where’s the balance?

What exactly is balance?

How do you find balance in your life?

Let’s say you are determined to be at the top of your career in a field that is always evolving.

To do this you are constantly taking courses or attending seminars or other career and networking events.

You also have a personal life.

Whether you have a family with kids and your extended family in your life, or you are blissfully single and enjoy staying inside with a book or a movie, you have a life outside of your career or business.

Sometimes, it just feels like there is a lot more to accomplish than there is time, energy, and motivation.

Over the past few years, we have heard a lot about work-life balance.

As a matter of fact, it has increasingly become one of the benefits offered by employers.

If you do an internet search of “work life balance” you’ll find many articles on the benefits of work-life balance.

The concept of life balance assumes that it is possible to allot equal time and effort to everyone and everything in your life.

While balance suggests we divide our time and effort evenly, the reality is that maintaining healthy relationships and success is never an exact 50/50 split.

In life and relationships, we more often find 70/30 or 80/20 splits.

To add complexity, the scale is not fixed.

Depending on your goals, the things you give more or less time and effort to shift.

Achieving balance, in this sense, is nearly impossible.

So, how do we successfully manage all the parts of our life?

Well, that’s where prioritization comes in.

Finding a healthy balance in life is about finding a way to manage and prioritize our responsibilities, goals, and relationships.

It’s about recognizing that some areas of our lives may require more attention and effort at certain times, while others may require less.

It’s about prioritizing so we can find the right amount of time and energy to devote to each area of our lives based on our individual needs.

Instead of fighting for balance, it may be more beneficial to prioritize all the aspects of your life.

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Why Should You Prioritize?

We’ve established that the idea of a completely balanced life is pretty much unattainable.

So how do we manage all the things and people in our lives?

The best thing we can do to fully enjoy life, be successful, and reduce feelings of being overwhelmed is to constantly prioritize all the aspects of our lives.

Let’s take a look at what it means to prioritize.

What is Prioritization

Prioritization involves assigning value, importance, and urgency to all the areas or tasks in your life.

Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines prioritize as: “to list or rate (projects, goals, etc.) in order of priority” (priority is defined as “a preferential rating”.)

Prioritizing your life involves reviewing your goals and aspirations, relationships, and all other aspects of your life as we will see later.

Why Prioritize?

We all have aspirations and an image of the ideal life we want to live.

We know how we want to be seen, how we want to feel, and the things we would like to experience.

We also understand that you can’t do everything or be everywhere at the same time.

You also can’t just wish or think things into reality; achieving goals takes time and effort.

Everything can’t be a top priority.

And you won’t have it all immediately.

But you can get it all done with time.

Prioritizing helps you assess all your goals, and determine which are more immediate or urgent, the value add, the importance, and the goals that can wait a little longer.

Prioritization helps you put things into perspective so you can achieve all you want over time.

So let’s take the example of the person with the career again, but this time let’s add more context.

Let’s say it is a wife and mother, who has a blossoming career in tech.

She also enjoys the idea of taking learning opportunities offered by her job and attending a few of the many tech networking events around the country.

Her husband also has a stable growing career, and the children are small.

In addition to all this, they have family and friends with whom they like to travel and hang out, as often as possible.

Now for the age-old question.

How does she do it all?

The best way to live fulfilled when you have so much going on is to determine a few things.

How do we do that with this scenario?

  1. Understand your goals and only take on events and courses that will help you achieve those goals
  2. Be intentional about ending work on time and scheduling time with friends and family
  3. Be consistent about reviewing your schedule and goals to allow you to achieve your goals in record time to free up more time for family and friends

We all want more time with the people and things we love, and we also have goals we want to achieve.

It’s important to find a way to be well-rounded, fulfilled, and successful in all areas of your life.

Weighing urgency and importance are critical to prioritization, as we will see later.

What Happens When You Don’t Prioritize?

It’s said that if you don’t prioritize your life someone else will. If you don’t define your boundaries and what is important to you, people and circumstances in your life will.

Prioritizing your life requires an understanding of what is important to you and the power you hold to set those priorities, create boundaries, and make good choices.

If any of these three is missing you may find yourself constantly adding things to your plate that don’t align with your goals or values.

Another effect of not prioritizing your life can be a feeling of anxiety and overwhelm.

When you don’t take stock of your life and make schedules, or worst still, when you fail to follow the schedules you’ve set for yourself you can set yourself up for overwhelm.

After you have missed a few important deadlines and you notice that you haven’t been able to complete the tasks you set for yourself, you may start to panic, or rush.

Missing out on important milestones or opportunities can also cause disappointment for yourself and those around you.

So how do we avoid these problems?

Let’s look at some steps to help you start prioritizing.

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How do You Prioritize?

1. List Everything

The first thing is to list all of your goals, and plans.

Also, list the activities and events that are coming up, or that you can forsee.

Then list out all the people in your life that you currently spend time or want to spend time with or that might need to be considered in your schedule.

2. Determine Value, Urgency, and Importance

Now it’s time to determine which goals and events are urgent, which are important and which can be done at a later time.

The fact that something is on your list should mean that it is valuable to you or adds value to your life. if it doesn’t now is the time to remove it from your life.

You’ll now need to determine the importance and urgency of each thing on your list.

Those that are most important and most urgent are the things you start working on immediately or make sure to put on your schedule to keep it top of mind and give you the best chance of success with either remembering or completing.

You’ll need to have a good grasp of what is most important to you and also be willing to move things or postpone things for others.

Everything can’t be of equal importance or urgency.

The decisions involve weighing each task or activity against each other.

For instance, if you have two things on your list

  1. Going to support a friend or family member at an event they are hosting or are featuring in
  2. Going to a meeting for a high-visibility company project

In this scenario, you can feel pressured both ways.

It is up to you to determine the importance and urgency of both.

Maybe you look at the possibility of rescheduling or the chance that with of the two could come up again.

Maybe you consider the idea of lost opportunity for one over the other.

Either way, both must be weighed against each other and given the value you determine.

3. Schedule

You will also want to schedule your goals and schedule time for all the activities on your list spending time with or calling family and friends.

Another good thing to do at this point is to set deadlines for your goals.

Your schedule should dictate the majority, if not all, of your activities from day to day. You should try to stay away from anything that is not on your schedule – or schedule activities that you want to do.

It may also help to track how you spend your time for a week to see how much you are aligning with your schedule and how it is affecting your ability to reach your goals.

Once you have made a schedule or a plan do your best to stick with it.

If at all you have to make changes it’s best to go through the first two steps again.

4. Be Consistent

Prioritizing your tasks is not a one-time thing.

Making your schedule is only the beginning.

The real work comes in following and reviewing your schedule and your goals.

Things can change over time and making sure to review your goals, plans, and schedule to make sure they still align with what you want.

For your big goals, you may only need to do this once a month or once a quarter.

There are also things you will need to review weekly and even daily.

Making a daily note of things that need to get done that day will help to keep you aligned with your goals and values.

It will also keep you from having to rush through things, or even miss important events and deadlines.

Another helpful tip will be to set aside time to create schedule of things you will do in the following week

5. Remember This is Your Plan

This is your plan, one you are setting to achieve your goals.

That being said this plan can change at any time, your goals can also change, your schedule can change.

You may not have the same enthusiasm or determination each day, the goals is to continue.

You may not get everything done on schedule, or as perfect as you would like.

Things, activities, or people’s value may change as time goes on. All of that is ok.

Just remember to be open and allow your values to guide your decisions.

In the end, you hold the power to choose where and how you spend your time and energy.

Some Helpful Tools

It’s always good to get out of your head and write things down.

Keeping all your tasks and deadlines in your head is a recipe for disaster, which is why the first step is to write everything down.

Here are apps that can help you get closer to your goals and keep all your tasks in one place.

Here are a few that I have used in the past:

  • Strides: Strides is a goal and habit tracker that allows you to set targets, track progress, and get reminders. You can use it to break down your goals into smaller, more manageable tasks, and track your progress over time. Unfortunately, Strides is only available for iOS, but there are other apps on the list for Android users.
  • ClickUp: ClickUp is a project management app that lets you track tasks, deadlines, and progress across your team. It has a wide range of features, including task lists, calendars, timelines, and more. ClickUp is available for iOS, Android, and web.
  • Structured: Structured is another one for iOS users. It is a to-do list app that lets you create custom templates for your tasks. You can use it to break down your tasks into subtasks, set due dates and reminders, and track your progress.
  • Todoist: Todoist is a popular to-do list app that lets you create tasks, set due dates, and track your progress. It has a clean and simple interface and integrates with a wide range of other apps and tools. Todoist is available for iOS, Android, and the web.

Check out this review for more information.

The Round Up

Life can be demanding, and it’s easy to feel like we are constantly juggling too many balls.

We have competing goals and expectations pulling us in different directions.

There’s a pressure to excel in every aspect of our lives, to live a social media-worthy life.

It’s no wonder that we can feel overwhelmed and burnt out.

Sometimes we just need a break from the hustle and bustle of daily life.

But more than that, we need assurance that all the work we’re putting in every day has a purpose.

It can be hard to see the bigger picture when we’re caught up in the rat race, but it’s important to remember that everything we do contributes to something greater.

By taking a step back and re-evaluating our priorities, we can gain a fresh perspective and find renewed motivation to keep pushing forward.

2 responses to “Prioritize, Don’t Balance – The Key to Achieve All You Want in Life”

  1. Faith Avatar
    Faith

    This is so true, I’ve tried so hard in the past to “balance” but there is just no way when you have so many demands pulling you left and right. Once I started making lists and putting the most important things down- I started getting more accomplished.

    1. TWT Avatar

      ❤️ Exactly I had to go through a few cycles of setting and forgetting my goals and having tasks completed late or even go undone myself.

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